By the Ocean
Sunny 72 Degrees
6:39 a.m.
When you live with someone who is addicted to surfing, the general flow of the day takes on a very different feeling than normal.
Surfing doesn’t get planned around the day, the day gets planned around surfing.
You can try to do it the other way, but you just end up frustrated. Because you’re dealing with a constraint over which you have no control.
Mother Nature doesn’t ask, she doesn’t apologize, she doesn’t request feedback.
She just IS.
So there’s this funny interplay between desire and surrender happening all of the time. You are free to want whatever you want. It doesn’t mean you’re going to get it. You’re free to feel however you choose about that.
Do you surrender? Do you insert your Will? Do you do both? Mastering life seems to be about figuring out which to do when.
You’re basically learning to dance with the Universe. I’m not sure if it changes the path of your life if you can do this, I’m not even sure free will exists in the way we talk about it. What I DO know is this ability to “dance” directly affects your experience of life.
If you don’t learn to dance, you suffer over and over again. It’s not fun. I’ve done it.
Business is like this too. There is much beyond your control. There is much within your control. Figuring out which is which and using that understanding to choose the point of your focus at any one time is the work.
It is the “dance” we do to earn the honor of solving problems for others without going insane.
If you don’t learn this dance, you suffer over and over again.
I control my ability to sit down and write this message every day. I do not control what happens after I hit send. The Universe takes care of that.
Much like growing an orchard of fruit trees though, the more care that is put into the planting and the nurturing, the better the fruit seems to taste.